Make sure that your childįeels that you've listened, understood, and tried to take his needs into account.ģ. They're more likely to do what we ask, even if they don't see any benefit for themselves. Of course he doesn't want to leave the playground. Remember to acknowledge things from your child's perspective. Worst case scenario, you'll get to the older child's school early and play at their playground.Ģ. Since you know that a meltdown is likely, start the process of leaving the park half an hour earlier than you think That's why it's important to do what you can in advance, to avoid the meltdown in the moment.ġ. The answer is that sometimes you really don't have time for big emotions. Their child lovingly through a big cry usually becomes a convert and starts to embrace tears, rather than shutting them down.īUT what if you don't have time? Sometimes, after all, you have other children to go pick up, or "the baby is crawling away putting leaves in his mouth and my toddler is throwing a tantrum on the swing and my 4-year-old is running to the slides because he doesn't want to leave," as Kristin said in response to my post about helping a child leave the playground. So any parent who can stay calm enough to support Sibling squabbles diminish and your child is unusually affectionate. So, you sometimes find yourself sitting on a park bench with a sobbing child.Īmazingly, after the meltdown, your child is usually cooperative for the Happily, when we make it safe for children to show us their tears and fears, they wail and weep, and then they let them go and move on. They come bubbling up when your child suffers even a small disappointment. Old hurts that weren't expressed stay clenched inside, stored in the emotional backpack. Sometimes your child just needs to cry, either because of a new disappointment like leaving the playground before they're ready, or some old feelings they're lugging around in their emotional backpack. "How would you handle a situation when you have to leave the park to go get your other two children and unfortunately can't sit on the bench for thirty minutes while she cries?" - Sandra
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